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stop letting people tell you how or who you are supposed to be!

3/29/2018

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I had a lovely conversation with one of my OT mom's today during therapy and it brought up a thought that has been on my mind quite a lot lately. 

She confessed to me that she had a hard time getting rid of things, especially things that belonged to her growing children. She said she guessed she was a hoarder. I was quick to say, "No you're not, unless it is caving in on you or you can't get into your home." She responded that no, it wasn't like that at all. I followed up by saying, "I am so sick and tired of the world giving everyone a label and putting them in a box so everything is nice, neat, and tidy. If you want to save your kid's things because you have an emotional tie and a memory to it, then just do it and don't worry about the box or the label you will be put in or given." 

She smiled and exclaimed, "You know what? You're right!" 

I had another OT mom tell me today that although her son has autism, she expects him to be polite, respectable, and courteous because she refuses to allow his label of 'autism' to keep him from being a good human being. Her child was wildly polite and it was amazing!

When we put ourselves or let others put us or our kids in a box with a label, it may cause limitations to what could be possible. For example, I was put in the box with the label of 'special ed' when I was in grade school. Later on, I decided that I was more than this and refused to be held down by a label or held in a box and I didn't. I busted right out and have never stopped.

If you want to keep your Christmas tree up all year, do it. If you want to wear white shoes after Labor Day, do it. If you want your child or yourself to rise above a label or box, than allow this!

One of the things that I have learned over my many years of study is this: If you tell yourself you can't or shouldn't be capable of doing something because of your label or your box, guess what happens? Your subconscious literally says, "Oh, okay, I can't do that and now I believe it and I will now hold you or your kids back from endless possibilities." Not kidding, y'all!

Labels and boxes=limitations! 

Anything is possible if you believe it and convince your subconscious. I see it everyday in my OT practice and it amazes me every single day!
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Just another reason . . .

3/17/2018

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I cannot stress to y'all enough, what an honor it is doing a job that I love to bits and enjoy every day. I am equally honored meeting the families and the OT kids as they teach me something each and every moment as well.
Here's what I mean . . .
I had a phone conversation with a new OT kid's mom this morning wich further drove home my utter justification in writing 'The Dragonfly Approach' and here's why.
As I listened to her tell me all about her OT kid and her other two that have issue as well, she repeatedly said, "I wish that after I was given the diagnosis (in her case her son has autism) that someone would have told me what the next step was, what therapies he needed, what could I do with him at home, help him with school, etc. Just some starting point. I would have been so grateful."
The desperation in her voice moved my heart and this type conversation is one of the thousands that I have had with parents who have a child that is/has been diagnosed with any number of issues like autism, sensory processing disorder, a genetic disorder, ADHD, dyslexia, etc. over the last 25+ years.
One of the other things she proudly told me is that once her son was diagnosed, she got online trying to find out anything and everything only to be completely overwhelmed at where to start, which way to go, and many other questions she told me about.
This is why 'The Dragonfly Approach' was written. Written for the aftermath of finding out that your child has a special need and what in the heck to do about it now. The information out there is all over the place and goes in a million different directions and when you are a parent trying to weed through and tease out what in the heck to do, it can be completely overwhelming and very defeating, indeed.
The other day, one of my own kids asked me this, "Why did you write this book? What were you hoping accomplish? Do you hope you get rich?" I chuckled at the last question as wealth is and never has been on my mind. I actually cannot stand money although my mom says not to look at it as an enemy but as a tool. Its hard for me because money=greed in my heart and mind and comes from many years of suffering because of it. I'll stop there.
So, I looked at my wonderful child and I said this, "Imagine that I had the secret to how you could be the best baseball player around but I chose to keep it to myself. How would that make you feel?" He looked at me and said, "Well, I'd be pissed of course."
"What if I had the secret to curing cancer, but I kept it to myself?" He answered, "Mom, get to the point already."
"I have valuable information that I have gleaned from living with it from the moment I was born, in addition, you and your sister had your own issues and I have had the honor of working as an OT for many years with these cool kids. The information I have learned, I cannot keep a secret and I will not keep it a secret. It must be told so that families can get the direction they need early on to help their special needs kids. I hope to accomplish a successful journey for these kids and their families to prevent the frustration and sadness I hear from them every day by 'not knowing.' As for the money, I could care less. That is so far removed from my motivation, you know that about me."
My son took a deep breath and then blew it out saying, "Mom, God has made this possible you know," and with tears in my eyes I said, "Yep, He's had a plan for me from the time I was 8 years old. He let me know that now was the time. I'm one lucky person to have such an awesome God."
We hugged and I had a bit of a come apart because my passion for what I do and this book must be told and as I learn more, I will write another one and another one as things progress and change in my field.
I love all you folks who battle with this thing called special needs and know that each night I am praying for all of you. Every single night!
Love y'all!!♥


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