She confessed to me that she had a hard time getting rid of things, especially things that belonged to her growing children. She said she guessed she was a hoarder. I was quick to say, "No you're not, unless it is caving in on you or you can't get into your home." She responded that no, it wasn't like that at all. I followed up by saying, "I am so sick and tired of the world giving everyone a label and putting them in a box so everything is nice, neat, and tidy. If you want to save your kid's things because you have an emotional tie and a memory to it, then just do it and don't worry about the box or the label you will be put in or given."
She smiled and exclaimed, "You know what? You're right!"
I had another OT mom tell me today that although her son has autism, she expects him to be polite, respectable, and courtious because she refuses to allow his label of 'autism' to keep him from being a good human being. Her child was wildly polite and it was amazing!
When we put ourselves or let others put us or our kids in a box with a label, it may cause limitiations to what could be possible. For example, I was put in the box with the label of 'special ed' when I was in grade school. Later on, I decided that I was more than this and refused to be held down by a label or held in a box and I didn't. I busted right out and have never stopped.
If you want to keep your Christmas tree up all year, do it. If you want to wear white shoes after Labor Day, do it. If you want your child or yourself to rise above a label or box, than allow this!
One of the things that I have learned over my many years of study is this: If you tell yourself you can't or shouldn't be capable of doing something because of your label or your box, guess what happens? Your subconscious literally says, "Oh, okay, I can't do that and now I believe it and I will now hold you or your kids back from endless possibilities." Not kidding, y'all!
Labels and boxes=limitations!
Anything is possible if you believe it and convince your subconscious. I see it everyday in my OT practice and it amazes me every single day!